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There were many problems like that in this family dynamic.

Weedy, that sucks as a 'family dynamic'. It's being uppity, of course, and need not happen more than once.

We have a get-to-gather at our house. Family/friends would offer to help clean up, wife will say, "No. I got it". Then later she complains to me that no one help her?!

:snowman:Lazy L, I think the hitch in your wife's giddyup is caused by a confusion of formulas for the occasion.

Formula #1: Guests move in at her first move at the chore and start cleaning up - without asking. Wife says "You don't need to do that", makes no further protest unless she wants to start an argument.
Formula #2: Guests make no move, but make an offer to help. Wife says"Thank you, the dishwasher is over there."
 
Maybe the quilt of valor is for both of your valor. Maybe he'll have it for a short time and then it will be yours again.
Probably not, I already heard one of the grand children already asked for it.
And it wasn't the one who had been in the Air Force either.
So I asked Uncle if I could stitch his name, dates of service in it.
As part of my label,
my name, dates of service as the presenter.
He was thrilled that I thought of something so special.
He already contacted his lawyer, the grandson who had been in the Air Force is getting it.
I told him I was good with that.
He also told me that he figured it out that they hadn't asked me to make his Quilt of Valor.
That when he had changed somethings in his will, some of them where in for big surprises.
Told him that was between him, his lawyer.
 
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That when he had changed somethings in his will, some of them where in for big surprises.
Told him that was between him, his lawyer.

I know a woman who decided that a house in her family should be hers when the owner, her dad, died. She was the only daughter and thought her brothers shouldn't get it. She and her dad went to the lawyer to get the will changed. She said the lawyer looked at her and said, "You cannot be here when there is a discussion about your dad's will when you are one of the heirs."
 
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Absolutely!

To assume makes an a** of u and me. When people do this, there is a communication problem and a problem around respect.

My grandparents would have a big dinner with lots of people and invite my mom, daughter-in-law. Mom was expected to do the dishes, and not one other person helped. My mom figured it out, that when they were invited for dinner, she would decline. It wasn't worth eating dinner and then doing dishes for a dozen people with no help. There were many problems like that in this family dynamic.

They didn't call it ' The Family Circus ' for nothing in the funny papers.
 
Probably not, I already heard one of the grand children already asked for it.
And it wasn't the one who had been in the Air Force either.
So I asked Uncle if I could stitch his name, dates of service in it.
As part of my label,
my name, dates of service as the presenter.
He was thrilled that I thought of something so special.
He already contacted his lawyer, the grandson who had been in the Air Force is getting it.
I told him I was good with that.
He also told me that he figured it out that they hadn't asked me to make his Quilt of Valor.
That when he had changed somethings in his will, some of them where in for big surprises.
Told him that was between him, his lawyer.
Uncle called tonight wants grandson who served in Air Force name and service dates added to label if there is room.
Told him I would try to add.
 
We have a get-to-gather at our house. Family/friends would offer to help clean up, wife will say, "No. I got it". Then later she complains to me that no one help her?!
My mother in law does that and then she sends "hubby" an email to complain that we won't help. Hubby tries to delegate them so I don't see them but they still show up on my phone.
 
FUN-NY
Scuse me while I kiss this guy, yep.
And Stairway to Heaven was basically a total loss to me -- when I was a younger punk.
CCR's Down on the Corner, I swear I can't even begin to tell you how badly I misheard Mr. Fogerty.
Misheard lyrics is an actual website but I'm crying now.
edited to add: I laugh so hard I cry.
 
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why are toilet seats colder than icebergs..
heated or microfleece toilet seats need to happen..juz sayin..unless one has intestinal issues than maybe just heated ones are good..
I can remember when my Grandma had those fuzzy toilet covers.
Hers were pink and covered the tank and seat.
When the grandsons visited she always took them off for some reason. :)
We have a bidet that attaches to the toilet bowl under the seat.
It is cold water only and I thought that would be a problem but surprisingly it's not.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00JG2DETM/?tag=skimlinks_replacement-20
 
Hot blooded...when one of my nephews was little he thought it was hot 'n bloody. Poor kid.
There was another new one on me this year, of course now I forget what it was. Ya know, where ya go: all these years I thought it was la ti da and it was actually mo jo risin'. Whatever.

You wouldn't believe the lyrics that were made up or imagined for this song. especially considering the times in the early 1960s.
 
FUN-NY
Scuse me while I kiss this guy, yep.
And Stairway to Heaven was basically a total loss to me -- when I was a younger punk.
CCR's Down on the Corner, I swear I can't even begin to tell you how badly I misheard Mr. Fogerty.
Misheard lyrics is an actual website but I'm crying now.
edited to add: I laugh so hard I cry.
I didn't have money to spend on records and tapes when I was young, and in South Dakota, Country and Western was about the only choice on the radio. Saturdays we got Soul Train (go figure that in South Dakota) and American Band Stand on Saturdays that I could listen to or watch when I was doing some house work or ironing. So there is a whole bunch of music I kind of missed or know very little about.

I only recently learned about Eric Clapton's song, "Tears in Heaven," although that song was from the 90's.
 
Government shutdown!!!!!! World will end. Henny Penny run for it!!!!
Now they say a partial shutdown. But stil...
Yesterday I heard it is a total of 4,000 nonessential employees that are affected.
So I looked up on Al Bore's Internet, total Federal employees are numbered at 2,800,000.
That is 0.14% of the total work force!!!
 
My son and my brother both work for the federal government and both are still working. Son works for the DOD and my brother works for the Department of Reclamation.
Their departments are fully staffed, except the people that had to use vacation time or lose it. They get a lot of vacation time and can't carry it over to a new year.
 
Background. Saturday mornings I usually visit mom (88 years old, medical problems and can not live alone). My oldest sister (single) lives with mom to keep a eye on her. Sunday is our Aunt's 100th Birthday Party.

Saturday's texts:

Sister (8 AM). Coming over this morning?
Me (8:30) AM: Sunday. After lunch we will stop in. We can stay with mom so you can go to Birthday party? On the way home wife and I will go to Birthday party.
Sister (9:45 AM). Landline still not working. Phone company coming Thursday. As for Sunday, mom would like to go to Birthday party as well but...As for just me going, maybe. What time were planning on being here?
Sister (2:00 PM). No Internet again either!!!!!! As for tomorrow, call us after you have lunch and we will let you know whether we are both going to Party or just me or neither.

Sunday.

Sister ( 11:28 AM) We are staying home
Me (12:30 PM). I call mom/sister on their landline, Sister answer's. "We are leaving the restaurant and will be there in 10 minutes." Sister, "Oh?! You are coming over today? Me, "Yes be there in 10 minutes." Sister, "Oh OK."

We visit with mom and sister for 2 hours and the wife and I leave for the Birthday party.

I thought my original text had all of the information that my Sister ask for in her following texts and I don't understand why she was then surprised when I called we were on our way to visit? I don't speak female?
 
Background. Saturday mornings I usually visit mom (88 years old, medical problems and can not live alone). My oldest sister (single) lives with mom to keep a eye on her. Sunday is our Aunt's 100th Birthday Party.

Saturday's texts:

Sister (8 AM). Coming over this morning?
Me (8:30) AM: Sunday. After lunch we will stop in. We can stay with mom so you can go to Birthday party? On the way home wife and I will go to Birthday party.
Sister (9:45 AM). Landline still not working. Phone company coming Thursday. As for Sunday, mom would like to go to Birthday party as well but...As for just me going, maybe. What time were planning on being here?
Sister (2:00 PM). No Internet again either!!!!!! As for tomorrow, call us after you have lunch and we will let you know whether we are both going to Party or just me or neither.

Sunday.

Sister ( 11:28 AM) We are staying home
Me (12:30 PM). I call mom/sister on their landline, Sister answer's. "We are leaving the restaurant and will be there in 10 minutes." Sister, "Oh?! You are coming over today? Me, "Yes be there in 10 minutes." Sister, "Oh OK."

We visit with mom and sister for 2 hours and the wife and I leave for the Birthday party.

I thought my original text had all of the information that my Sister ask for in her following texts and I don't understand why she was then surprised when I called we were on our way to visit? I don't speak female?
I don't know sister, but some people that I have encountered don't hear or get what is said to them, because it is not what they want to hear or get.

Group of books ordered for school, multiple copies of leveled books (100's of books). I did the research with another colleague and made the recommendation for the books to be ordered. Books come in and me and only me works on them, getting them ready for check-out, covering them with clear contact paper to extend the life and packaging them by book for quick check out. Colleague comes to me and says, "I want my share of the books in my classroom." Me: "That is not how this works. All the books will be stored together and we can each borrow what we need for the week, and then return them so we can all use them." A day or two later, same colleague comes to me and says the same thing. I explain it to her again. A day or two later, repeat. A day or two later, repeat. Fourth request to give her a share of the books. Obviously doesn't get it because she doesn't want to get it. Fourth conversation I yell my response. Colleague gets it, but doesn't like my delivery. She doesn't realize (maybe she does, maybe that is her way of getting what she wants) that she is now in harassment mode by bothering me four times and not listening to what I have been saying. Colleague trots down to principal and tells her I yelled at her. Principal quizzes her about what the conversation was, but colleague probably does not tell principal that she is on a mission to have her piece of the books in her classroom and is not going to hear what I said 3 times previously. Grade level meeting, minus harasser, where principal quizzes the group of 6 of us who are there, asking how this works and should we divide them up or keep them together? This is really a form of harassment again, determined to have her way. All the rest of us have a resounding and unanimous agreement that the books need to be kept together and that we each borrow books as we need them. Colleague probably never heard in the training of how to use the books, how it works. She always had her children sitting on the grass, waiting for buses about an hour before dismissal, waiting for her students to be gone so she could go and get a drink, so her mind was probably at the bar during the training. Woman was a mess and not a good teacher.
 
I don't know sister, but some people that I have encountered don't hear or get what is said to them, because it is not what they want to hear or get... She doesn't realize (maybe she does, maybe that is her way of getting what she wants) that she is now in harassment mode....

I think you nailed it.

Work has a piece of expensive test equipment I keep in my office. Test equipment is used a few times a month by three different departments. One Department Head always raises a stink when it isn't available for his use. All he had to do is given me a call in advance I could reserve it for him, he refuses to do so. A high level meeting is called by the Owner to resolve this problem. A second test equipment unit is purchased and it will be storied in the complaining managers Tech's service vehicle. Test equipment is calibration sensitive to temperature swings (service truck is parked outside) and vibration (bouncing down rough roads). A few months later Complaining Manager calls and wants to borrow the unit in my office. "His" unit hasn't work for several weeks and he expects me to give him priority...sorry...another department is already using it...I can give him a call when it's available, I get hung up on. I wait for my phone to ring for the call I know is coming...Owner calls...he's been told I'm being a hindrance and un-cooperating. Owner doesn't what to hear my side of the story...I'm to call the other department and tell them I need the test equipment back here ASAP. Now neither unit is stored in my office, they are stored where-ever the complaining Manager thinks they should be at the time and both have lost their calibration...heard rumors the Owner is dragging his feet on purchasing a third unit.
 
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I think you nailed it.

Work has a piece of expensive test equipment I keep in my office. Test equipment is used a few times a month by three different departments. One Department Head always raises a stink when it isn't available for his use. All he had to do is given me a call in advance I could reserve it for him, he refuses to do so. A high level meeting is called by the Owner to resolve this problem. A second test equipment unit is purchased and it will be storied in the complaining managers Tech's service vehicle. Test equipment is calibration is very sensitive to temperature swings (service truck is parked outside) and vibration (bouncing down rough roads). A few months later Complaining Manager calls and wants to borrow the unit in my office. "His" unit hasn't work for several weeks and he expects me to give him priority...sorry...another department is already using it...I can give him a call when it's available, I get hung up on. I wait for my phone to ring for the call I know is coming...Owner calls...he's been told I'm being a hindrance and un-cooperating. Owner doesn't what to hear my side of the story...I'm to call the other department and tell them I need the test equipment back here ASAP. Now neither unit is stored in my office, they are stored where-ever the complaining Manager thinks they should be at the time and both have lost their calibration...heard rumors the Owner is dragging his feet on purchasing a third unit.
We got stories!
We used to go on field trips as a grade level. Two classes shared a bus. One class ALWAYS had to sit in the front of the bus. Always has an excuse about why. Essentially, it was one parent who at one time was the head of a big business, probably most of you would recognize the name. She would promise her son she was going to be a chaperone, and never felt well on the days of the field trips. My students began to ask, "Why do we always sit in the back?" I never said it, but it was because some people think they are really special and have to be first, up front, and in the most desirable spots. Because she had the job she had, no one wanted to cross or challenge "special" mom.
 
Lazy L, that's a great place to work, seems like. BTW, what joy results from the false readings?

The work gets scrapped and is done over again. Was great perks and benefits, which the Owner continues to slowing reduce while no salary adjustments for cost of living. I'll be surprise if the Company is still viable in 5 to 10 years. Not trouble for me because all of my retirement financial goals where met more then a year ago. :lil guy:
 
We have moms that think they're special at our school. I tell them everyone's special. Right now one is being special by asking to help with things, which is great. She cleaned out the fishtank last Friday, and said she would pick up a new filter and more rock. Problem is, she is getting ready to enroll her 4 year old (monster child) in a couple of weeks. His 6 year old brother already attends and is fine. I don't know what she's done to the four year old, but he had a trial day last month and told everyone off and about tore my office up. This mom loves to help with school parties and does a good job. Don't know what to do about her son. She doesn't listen.
 
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