What I did right, imho: Was offered a full scholarship to college, along with a friend of mine, with a chance to go to Italy and study Montessori education. I stayed the coarse, she could barely think of getting an education. She was tortured every day to be in college. I was ecstatic to be there. It was such a better life than the home front. While I was working on the first leg of it, an associates degree, or AA, she was focused on her MRS. She was always looking for young men to write letters to and to establish relationships with. She would stay up late at night watching late night television, writing her letters, while I had to go to bed at 10, because I was on the go from 6 in the morning and have always needed a good night's sleep. She often wanted to skip her 8 o'clock class, and always wanted me to join her in that. NOPE! She also worked on campus, like I did, but would get paid one day, and be flat broke the next. Not me. I always had money saved, and she knew it and would always try to separate me from some of my money. When we finished our AA degrees, I had already applied for and had been accepted into the college that had Montessori education with a BA. She did not want to pursue any more college, even if it would not have cost her one penny. One of the men she pursued ended up marrying her. He was gay, but needed to have a wife and family, or so he thought, or maybe she made it easy for him to put on that front. Early on she knew he was gay, but they stayed in the marriage until he was caught with a lover. She could no longer deny his inclinations, and they divorced.
I had a serious boyfriend while working on my AA, and he wanted to marry. I had my focus on a BA, and by the time I graduated from college, we had lived far enough away from each other for so long, and it was going to stay that way due to job opportunities, the relationship was hardly sustainable. You can only do long distance for so long. Friend was so jealous of that relationship, as was my narcissistic sister. I should have married him, a loyal and honest person, not the one whom I did, a cheater and a liar.
