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5. Make a plan to create space
Like it or not, space is the only way to protect yourself from a narcissistic family. As long as you stay in contact and within reach, they’re going to do what they need to do to control you. There is only one sure-fire way to guarantee that the narcissist no longer damages you or your happiness. And that involves taking as much physical and emotional space as possible from your toxic family members.
Putting it all together…
Did you grow up in a narcissistic family? It can take us decades to spot the signs, but when we do, it can transform our lives. Their enmeshment and conflict marks narcissistic families. But they also have an array of other toxic traits that make them dangerous and damaging for its members. The only way to recover from the hurt is by forging an alternative path of healing. That requires honesty, though, and creating space for you to manifest a new life for yourself.
Let yourself see your family for who they really are. Narcissists are not a reflection of you — although it can feel that way. Let go of the shame and look at your family honestly so you can understand them (and protect yourself). Set iron-clad boundaries with your family and refuse to allow them to cross the line. Move away from confrontation. The more boundaries you set, the more upset there will be. Stay strong and refuse to give in to their bullying and harassment. As you become more firm on your path, you will be able to seek a new kind of healing. Learn everything you can about narcissistic families and release yourself from the pain they’ve given you. From there, you can begin to create an action plan to manifest an entirely new future for yourself, full of joy and worthiness.
Like it or not, space is the only way to protect yourself from a narcissistic family. As long as you stay in contact and within reach, they’re going to do what they need to do to control you. There is only one sure-fire way to guarantee that the narcissist no longer damages you or your happiness. And that involves taking as much physical and emotional space as possible from your toxic family members.
Even though they are your family, no one has a right to abuse you, terrorize you, control you, or manipulate you. Whether they are a mother, father, brother, sister, grandparent, or cousin — you need to put distance between yourself and the narcissists around you. That means walking out of a room when their confrontations stop. It can also mean moving to the other side of the country to remove them from your life. Space is enough physical and emotional distance to protect your happiness and your wellbeing. You have a right to be happy, but the only way to guarantee that in a narcissistic family is to remove yourself from it.Make a plan to give yourself some space from your narcissistic family members. If you live with them, then it needs to include a plan for getting out on your own. If you simply exist nearby, or close enough to call, then the focus has to be on setting boundaries and enforcing them.
Putting it all together…
Did you grow up in a narcissistic family? It can take us decades to spot the signs, but when we do, it can transform our lives. Their enmeshment and conflict marks narcissistic families. But they also have an array of other toxic traits that make them dangerous and damaging for its members. The only way to recover from the hurt is by forging an alternative path of healing. That requires honesty, though, and creating space for you to manifest a new life for yourself.
Let yourself see your family for who they really are. Narcissists are not a reflection of you — although it can feel that way. Let go of the shame and look at your family honestly so you can understand them (and protect yourself). Set iron-clad boundaries with your family and refuse to allow them to cross the line. Move away from confrontation. The more boundaries you set, the more upset there will be. Stay strong and refuse to give in to their bullying and harassment. As you become more firm on your path, you will be able to seek a new kind of healing. Learn everything you can about narcissistic families and release yourself from the pain they’ve given you. From there, you can begin to create an action plan to manifest an entirely new future for yourself, full of joy and worthiness.