I am learning what I must do so my girls will not go through a bunch of manure and piles of paperwork when I get much older. Especially when you can't cook, hear good, see much, walk well, and you're home with hear okay, see wonky, has hallucinations and is use to being waited on.
Yep, folks are getting older. But, the education I've been getting for the last 8 years since they moved back, and the last 3 years since things have gotten really not working good for each of them, is remarkable.
They have no plans, Own their home and debts. Mom can still live at home with a little help, Dad is in nursing home, and now my 6 weeks to get some medicaid/ VA or miracle paperwork done to keep him there, is cut to 2 weeks.
in contrast:
Mom's mom had her stuff distributed starting about 81 (she lived to 95). Lived a bit with one child or another for a bit while she was able. Chose a time to go to an assisted living tower, that had a nursing home attached. And did the paperwork for all of that. When she passed it was within 2 weeks after a stroke. She had already paid for her cemetery lot (next to grandfather) in Pensacola across the street from Pensacola Bay. She had paid all the charges, ie: service, casket, etc. Had Mom or one of her sisters buy a lavender semi fancy soft nightgown to be buried in. The will done, and all the other paperwork, too. Her kids did not have to do more than carry out her plans.
I only tell you this for two examples of how we need to think of the impact of our planning for our end, and what it will do to our children and friends.
Are you planning well? Can you think about starting. I know I am (I don't want my girls to feel the way I do about folks having no planning).
Yep, folks are getting older. But, the education I've been getting for the last 8 years since they moved back, and the last 3 years since things have gotten really not working good for each of them, is remarkable.
They have no plans, Own their home and debts. Mom can still live at home with a little help, Dad is in nursing home, and now my 6 weeks to get some medicaid/ VA or miracle paperwork done to keep him there, is cut to 2 weeks.
in contrast:
Mom's mom had her stuff distributed starting about 81 (she lived to 95). Lived a bit with one child or another for a bit while she was able. Chose a time to go to an assisted living tower, that had a nursing home attached. And did the paperwork for all of that. When she passed it was within 2 weeks after a stroke. She had already paid for her cemetery lot (next to grandfather) in Pensacola across the street from Pensacola Bay. She had paid all the charges, ie: service, casket, etc. Had Mom or one of her sisters buy a lavender semi fancy soft nightgown to be buried in. The will done, and all the other paperwork, too. Her kids did not have to do more than carry out her plans.
I only tell you this for two examples of how we need to think of the impact of our planning for our end, and what it will do to our children and friends.
Are you planning well? Can you think about starting. I know I am (I don't want my girls to feel the way I do about folks having no planning).