Because they have repeat everything because men don't listen...actually we think they are just verbal organizing their thoughts when WHAM! They shift gears and are now wanting a response.
I thought of this thread after someone posted in a neighborhood group. I wish I had copied and saved it. This is my best memory of it. There were several people involved in the conversation:
"Does anyone know where or how I can barrow (sic) some Christmas books?"
First response, "The library has some Christmas books on display now."
Original poster responds, something like, "It is too early now."
Next response: "Then go when it is closer to Christmas."
Original poster: "For Christmas."
Response: "This doesn't make sense. Get the books from the library when it works for you."
Original poster posts a photo of a stack of books each individually wrapped so that each evening before Christmas, they can open a book and read it.
Next response was a GIF of someone who was really frustrated. LOL!
Then the original poster edits her original post to say something like, "I want Christmas books for my children, not library books.
Then the original poster says, "I said in my first post that I don't want library books."
She hadn't, and the first woman to respond originally, who is the group administrator responds: "You asked to borrow books, you didn't say anything about no library books."
Original poster posts a photo of her now changed post, showing it was 4 hours ago. It was NOT the original post, trying to show that responses are out of line from her original post.
Next response: "You just changed your original post. It didn't say anything about no library books. And you asked to "barrow" not "borrow" books.
Original poster: "I didn't say that, but whatever. by (instead of bye).
Now others are getting on and being critical of all the trolls. "We need to encourage this woman who wants to read to her children."
Finally the administrator, who was active in this conversation deletes it.
You see, the poster was not clear, asked to "barrow" (borrow) Christmas books. And then she tried to change it and play victim, but too late, had the group admin in the mix of the conversation. Good for her for wanting to read to her children. She definitely missed something in her own education.
My observation is that she was talking (writing) without thinking until all those people responded. She seemed to be a good manipulator, but not a clear communicator. This fits in with the comment that women talk to sort things out. Sometimes we do!