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Four of us girlfriends took a trip to the mountains. One of them was crazy. We had never seen anything like it before from her. She targeted another woman in the group and was nasty to her all weekend. Fortunately, the target and I shared a room, while nasty and other woman shared one. Nasty has never been able to apologize. She did say, "Can't you just forget it happened?" WHAT? It was really the end of the friendship between those two, and because of target and I being closer, we had dinner with nasty and I became the next target. Good-bye and good riddance!My sisters and I have put up with mom for a long time, and she won't apologize. If she knows she's up against a wall and really owes one, she'll wait it out for a couple weeks and then pretend it never happened and swoop back in. It's so predictable, it's amusing. I called her on it months ago when she was really mean to one of my sisters, accusing her of stuff that didn't happen. So, she'll start with asking if I'd heard from my sis, which is my cue for something's up. Told her she needed to apologize. I asked her every day if she did (no), and then told her what she'd do...which is wait another week and call and act like nothing happened. Which she did.
Another saying from a narc, "It was a joke!" Then why isn't everyone laughing? Because there was not one thing funny about it!
These are the kind of people you see with a Facebook page that is photo after photo of them. They are so self focused, they don't realize that no one really wants to nor needs to put up with their nastiness. And when someone keeps hammering away in a nasty way, then it is over, really, really over. You can forgive, but you will never really be able to have things the way they were.