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This is what works best for me, space, no contact.I have gone through periods where staying away from her was the most healthy thing for me.
This is what works best for me, space, no contact.I have gone through periods where staying away from her was the most healthy thing for me.
Children going no contact with narcissistic parents:
https://slate.com/human-interest/20...qo2BcalFLQ0rHNAwC61HgfMxMGrs480saRaDmIv2iiBB8
In a politically correct society, of course men will be the vast majority of those with any kind of negative trait. That said, I've known enough men that fit the description, I won't argue about the numbers.Another post in one of the FB groups about narcissism.
" We were learning about Narcs in my Psychology class, I found it really interesting, but did you know that 6.2% of adults display NPD?? And 75% of these characteristics are found in MEN?? I was surprised, but I guess it's because I'm used to dealing with a Narc mother. I'm also surprised the percentage is so high! I wonder what the statistic is for those who are narcs that are parents, I feel like it would be high because it gives them a way to be controlling..."
I would have thought that women would be more likely to be narcissists, but maybe because it is more common in women that I know than men.
I don't disagree with you, but it is not what I thought. Perhaps my thinking comes from my exposure. I also hope that these things that I post do not come across as me hating on men or attempting to point out that men are more flawed. I don't believe that at all. I have seen narcissism in both men and women. I imagine that when our society was much more controlled by men, that men were more likely to be narcissistic, but women could have shown narcissistic traits as well.In a politically correct society, of course men will be the vast majority of those with any kind of negative trait. That said, I've known enough men that fit the description, I won't argue about the numbers.
I think the politically correct bias in our education system excuses narc behavior in women. I know that younger women tend to think it's ok to strike a man, to manipulate men for money, and to play mental games with men to get their own way. If the behavior is ok for women, then they can't be narcs, right?
You're probably not wrong. And I'm sure men are more violent and threatening with their narc behavior. I think women tend to be more subtle.I don't disagree with you, but it is not what I thought. Perhaps my thinking comes from my exposure. I also hope that these things that I post do not come across as me hating on men or attempting to point out that men are more flawed. I don't believe that at all. I have seen narcissism in both men and women. I imagine that when our society was much more controlled by men, that men were more likely to be narcissistic, but women could have shown narcissistic traits as well.
I do think that we can be jaded by our experiences. I think it is also important to get out of our own heads and think about the other person or group sometimes.You're probably not wrong. And I'm sure men are more violent and threatening with their narc behavior. I think women tend to be more subtle.
I don't think you're a man hater, any more than I'm a woman hater. We all tend to view things through the lens of our own experiences...
I have probably said most of these things on here before.I’ve watched this thread since you started it @Weedygarden . After reading the posts a few things became obvious. I’m now aware of more than one person who is clearly a narcissist. One I’ve known for decades the others not so much.
The more I learned about their traits the easier it became to spot them and predict their actions. Anyone paying attention knows what they are going to do in any given situation, they are so obvious. The gaslighting chart you posted is so very revealing. There is nothing I can do to make things better. I’ve tried reason and logic in the past, the very things a narcissist hates the most.
So, thanks for this thread. It has been very educational. But I’m left with the same questions people have probably been asking for millennia. Why? Do narcissists really think no one can see through them? Are they delusional or just stupid? Or a combination of both?
For decades I’ve put a few people who have crossed my path into a category I call “Chaos People”. Where ever they go, there is chaos. I now see there is a subset of this group who are narcissists. And… there are degrees of narcissism I think. Still, if it’s possible, it's best to get these people out of your life, they never do anything to better others.
Your mom verbalizes that she thinks she deserves this or that. Some manipulate others to get what they think they deserve.That word, deserve....it sets me off when I hear my mom use it. And then there's a medicare supplement commercial that comes on tv often. And it says to get the benefits you deserve. I really dislike that word because mom thinks and says she deserves the world and it drives me nuts.
There is something that I don't necessarily think is narcissistic, but people who buy themselves gifts for birthday, Christmas, etc. But maybe it is. I don't know. Why not just buy it and be done? LOL! I know a woman who doesn't work outside the home, but she and her husband live with her mother. She spends her days watching television and doing little home care or cleaning. But, she buys herself concert tickets and other things for herself for these special days. Makes no sense to me. If I want something, I just go get it.She does both sometimes. She cracks me up, though, around her birthday and she just did it for upcoming mother's day...she buys something and says, "This is my mother's day gift to me because I deserve this". Does the same for her birthday. She can buy something for herself anytime she wants, but she makes it a point to say this. And for Christmas. Called me and told me she bought the Alan Jackson CD's for her own present because she deserves it. Very weird. I try not to use the words proud or deserve. Both I view as negative, and it's probably due to my upbringing.
Are any of you a narcissist? Take this quiz and let us know how you score, if you can be honest.
https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/narcissistic-personality-quiz
That means you might be an empath. That is kind of the opposite of a narcissist.Don’t even have to take the test to know. Raised by one I am not for sure for sure!
I did take it honestly and didn't cheat. I scored 0-11 points. Not a narc. And no, I didn't say I could rule the world.
Well then maybe you should meet my mom.
Those types of psychology questions are not written based on narc (or other condition) behavior.That test has too few questions,have you taken it,be honest and don't cheat.I did first few questions then figured a narcisist must have invented it. And yes I could rule the world better than whos ruling it now. [one of the dumb questions on test] .Go look at it again.
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