Weedy that doesn't sound good at all. Sorry you had such a bad childhood and I don't blame you for not having any more respect or feelings for them than you received from them.
All parents are not meant to be parents. My kids are all huggers because I am a hugger and gave them lots of attention too. But also tried to raise them to have self respect and know the world doesn't care about their feelings or problems. They have to be self sufficient.
But to be abusive and unfair is not being a good parent either.
Like I have said before I had at least 4 grands here all summer for first 8 years we were here plus school vacations etc.. I wanted to know them and them know us.
They chose to come rather than stay inside while their parents worked or in a nursery. Plus we did fun things with them. But also I had to be firm. Two of them never got a whipping at all the the other 4 only got one or two. Reason the hard headed ones only got a couple was because they knew I would if they pushed it.
From discussing things with you online for past several years on this and the other forum we got thrown off of you seemed to overcome all of it and be a lady of character. You don't go with the flow but speak out for what is right. Just my opinion.